Today’s topic came to my mind via Daily Prompt: Baby.
Recently, a friend of mine announced she was pregnant. She’s the first one among my group of friends to have a child. Everyone congratulated her and so did I, but in the back of my mind, I was wondering why. I know, that sounds like a horrible thing to say, but it’s honestly what I wondered.
She has such a bright future, and I know she still does. She’s a hard worker and very smart, even with an unexpected pregnancy, I know she’ll achieve her goals. But, I just felt sad for her because I know it’ll be a hindrance. Am I a horrible person for thinking that?
A lot of people I know who have kids or are pregnant, aren’t married. I know, I know, it’s 2017, who cares if they’re married are not. I’m not coming for a judgmental viewpoint, but a logical one, at least to me it is. I might be putting this in cold, logical terms, but having someone contracted to be with me forever means double financial help to raise this little person. I’m twenty-two and the people with kids I know are all around the same age, or younger. Many of them weren’t in college or stopped going after the pregnancy.
I just…I feel sad for them because they weren’t able to experience things like college, their first apartments, living alone in general, travelling, the freedom to do whatever they want for themselves. It’s like they lived dependent on their parents, still in their parents home and now all of a sudden, a little person is dependent on them.
I have no clue how they handle the financial burden. That’s what scares me the most, I can barely pay my rent, much less a child and all that comes with it. Also, they’re now kind of now stuck with someone for life…a lot of friends were dating their significant others for maybe six months and now they have a kid together. To me that’s absolutely crazy, I know it’s unexpected to them too.
I just wanted to get my thoughts out about unexpected pregnancies. I don’t think less of people who that happens to, but I think that now a chunk of fun and life is gone. I know that babies bring people happiness and love, but it’s just different…I don’t know exactly how to put my thoughts into words. If any of you have any comments, even if it’s to argue my opinions, please share. I would love to have an inkling of what goes through peoples minds when they find out they’re expecting, unexpectedly.
Thank you for reading!