Monthly Archives: April 2017

Sorry Ladies, One Gray Hair and Your Life is Over.

Hello everyone!

Today, I wanted to talk about the double-standards of aging between men and women. When men start aging, going gray, having some wrinkles, they are seen by society as distinguished, independent, wise, ‘silver foxes’, and handsome. When it’s an older women, she is seen more as dependent, unproductive, unhealthy, and should be taking better care of herself. God forbid a woman has a gray hair, she either has to pluck it or dye it. Ironically, older women tend to live longer than men, so many women are not unhealthy. 

Don’t worry, I know most people don’t tend to think like this. But, media portrayals through various mediums like magazines and television, are rampant with ageism between the sexes.

For example, Miriam O’Reilly, an Irish TV host, sued BBC for age discrimination in 2010. At that time she was 51. She used to be one of the presenters for their show CountryFile, until they dropped her for younger presenters. They replaced her with younger presenters, but kept John Craven, who had been on the show since it began about 20 years before the lawsuit, who was 68 at the time. Sure, he had been with the BBC for a long time, but O’Reilly had also contributed to the BBC for about 20 years. The BBC told her that they wanted a new presenter to appeal to youth.

O’Reilly experienced comments such as “time for Botox” and “careful with those wrinkles when high definition comes in”. O’Reilly won her case. The BBC apologized and still wanted to work with her because she had been with them for so long.

O’Reilly stated that “The idea that wrinkles or grey hair can sound the death knell for the careers of female TV presenters is beyond appalling, especially in a country where over a third of the population is aged 50 and over.” Truth. I got my information for this case from the BBC’s article about it and the agedicrimination.info website.

A more familiar example might be the hate that Hillary Clinton faced during the election. Whether or not you like her or not, you can’t deny that many people were put off by her age and the fact that she was a woman. She’s 69 and Donald Trump is only a year older, yet he stated “Well, I just don’t think she has a presidential look, and you need a presidential look” and states that he thinks she lacks stamina.

Older women have mainly been represented as the “grandmother and cookies” generalization. Strong, smart, and leaders are not words that people, or at least any form of media has associated with older women. Those adjectives are used with men.

I’m not saying that it’s not true that older men are smart and independent, but why can’t it be true for women also? Why does it only have to be men who are aging nicely and not women?

This post was prompted by the Daily Prompt: Gray

Feel free to leave any comments and questions!

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Friends Forever?

Hello everyone!

Recently I was thinking about the idea of “friends forever” and how life really is. Since I’ve been to college, I’ve kept in touch with three close friends from high school, but I’ve had a strange falling out with one, who I was really close to.

I feel like after high school, who you want to keep in your life is really up to you. You have to make the effort or else the friendship will just tend to fade away. Of course, there are some people who I haven’t spoken to in a year, but I can still text and call them almost as though nothing has changed. But for the majority of people, you tend to revert back to virtually strangers.

After high school, whether you go to college or get a job, the people you meet then are the ones that will have an impact and will most likely befriend.

I feel like the difference between high school friends and “real world” friends is the fact that friends you make post-high school tend to have more in common with you. Sure, you have things in common with high school friends, but you’re still kind of forced to be around them because you’re stuck in the same place for years, same classroom, and same people. Everyone knows everyone, and they all already know you.

After high school, if you leave your hometown, you get to redefine who you are. You get to introduce yourself to people how you want and not have your past define you.

My friends that I’ve made in college all have the same general outlooks as I do for my future. We want to be successful and independent. I know you might be thinking isn’t that everyone’s goals? No. People I was friends with in high school had goals of staying in town and getting married, which is totally fine. We all have different wants in life, but because our goals were so different, we had completely different mindsets.

I guess my point of this post is to let people know that after high school, you’re only going to stay friends if you put in the effort. But, you’re going to meet so many people who share the same beliefs and future that you want. Don’t feel like you have to stick to someone just because you were friends, sometimes you do need to move on.

Feel free to leave any comments! Thanks so much for reading guys!

Clinique: Beyond Perfecting Video Review

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Here’s my video review of the Clinique Beyond Perfecting Foundation. If you prefer to read about it, click here for my post about it. Feel free to leave any comments, questions, or concerns! Hope you guys enjoy!

 

 

Senioritis

Hello everyone!

Yesterday, I skipped all of my classes and did absolutely nothing. Why? Because I just didn’t want to go. But don’t worry, I’ve only missed like two classes the entire semester, not a chronic skipper.

But I realized that I graduate in almost a month and started panicking. No job set up, still have to pass current classes, and I have no idea what I want to do.

All I could think is TIME IS RUNNING OUT.

When I woke up today, I took a breathe and thought through everything. It’s amazing how we can stress ourselves out so easily. So what if I don’t have a job lined up? There’s no rule that says I need a ‘real job’ out of college. It would be nice, but I can always do part-time jobs, while I look for the right job.

I don’t need to stress out about my classes because I’ve done virtually everything and received decent grades. I realized that I should just enjoy the time I have left, and focus on my graduation day. I want to make it as fun and memorable as it can be.

I guess my point of this post is to remind everyone that we do have time. Don’t stress yourself out like I did, and if you do, take a minute and remember that there’s no ultimatium or rule that you have to follow. Just living in the moment and get what you need to get done at this moment, before worrying months ahead.

Thanks for reading!

via Daily Prompt: Timely