Recently I was thinking about the idea of “friends forever” and how life really is. Since I’ve been to college, I’ve kept in touch with three close friends from high school, but I’ve had a strange falling out with one, who I was really close to.
I feel like after high school, who you want to keep in your life is really up to you. You have to make the effort or else the friendship will just tend to fade away. Of course, there are some people who I haven’t spoken to in a year, but I can still text and call them almost as though nothing has changed. But for the majority of people, you tend to revert back to virtually strangers.
After high school, whether you go to college or get a job, the people you meet then are the ones that will have an impact and will most likely befriend.
I feel like the difference between high school friends and “real world” friends is the fact that friends you make post-high school tend to have more in common with you. Sure, you have things in common with high school friends, but you’re still kind of forced to be around them because you’re stuck in the same place for years, same classroom, and same people. Everyone knows everyone, and they all already know you.
After high school, if you leave your hometown, you get to redefine who you are. You get to introduce yourself to people how you want and not have your past define you.
My friends that I’ve made in college all have the same general outlooks as I do for my future. We want to be successful and independent. I know you might be thinking isn’t that everyone’s goals? No. People I was friends with in high school had goals of staying in town and getting married, which is totally fine. We all have different wants in life, but because our goals were so different, we had completely different mindsets.
I guess my point of this post is to let people know that after high school, you’re only going to stay friends if you put in the effort. But, you’re going to meet so many people who share the same beliefs and future that you want. Don’t feel like you have to stick to someone just because you were friends, sometimes you do need to move on.
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