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Sorry Ladies, One Gray Hair and Your Life is Over.

Hello everyone!

Today, I wanted to talk about the double-standards of aging between men and women. When men start aging, going gray, having some wrinkles, they are seen by society as distinguished, independent, wise, ‘silver foxes’, and handsome. When it’s an older women, she is seen more as dependent, unproductive, unhealthy, and should be taking better care of herself. God forbid a woman has a gray hair, she either has to pluck it or dye it. Ironically, older women tend to live longer than men, so many women are not unhealthy. 

Don’t worry, I know most people don’t tend to think like this. But, media portrayals through various mediums like magazines and television, are rampant with ageism between the sexes.

For example, Miriam O’Reilly, an Irish TV host, sued BBC for age discrimination in 2010. At that time she was 51. She used to be one of the presenters for their show CountryFile, until they dropped her for younger presenters. They replaced her with younger presenters, but kept John Craven, who had been on the show since it began about 20 years before the lawsuit, who was 68 at the time. Sure, he had been with the BBC for a long time, but O’Reilly had also contributed to the BBC for about 20 years. The BBC told her that they wanted a new presenter to appeal to youth.

O’Reilly experienced comments such as “time for Botox” and “careful with those wrinkles when high definition comes in”. O’Reilly won her case. The BBC apologized and still wanted to work with her because she had been with them for so long.

O’Reilly stated that “The idea that wrinkles or grey hair can sound the death knell for the careers of female TV presenters is beyond appalling, especially in a country where over a third of the population is aged 50 and over.” Truth. I got my information for this case from the BBC’s article about it and the agedicrimination.info website.

A more familiar example might be the hate that Hillary Clinton faced during the election. Whether or not you like her or not, you can’t deny that many people were put off by her age and the fact that she was a woman. She’s 69 and Donald Trump is only a year older, yet he stated “Well, I just don’t think she has a presidential look, and you need a presidential look” and states that he thinks she lacks stamina.

Older women have mainly been represented as the “grandmother and cookies” generalization. Strong, smart, and leaders are not words that people, or at least any form of media has associated with older women. Those adjectives are used with men.

I’m not saying that it’s not true that older men are smart and independent, but why can’t it be true for women also? Why does it only have to be men who are aging nicely and not women?

This post was prompted by the Daily Prompt: Gray

Feel free to leave any comments and questions!

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College Safety Doubts

Hello everyone!

I tried doing a post a day, but unfortunately I skipped the last couple days, so I’m going to try again. Today’s topic is Doubt via Daily Prompt.

It made me think about a rape case that’s going on at my school right now. A football player is accused of raping and assaulting a female student, and has been suspended from the football team.

But, when I was about to take my midterm, my professor did a little spiel on cheating and academic dishonesty. It caught my attention because he said that anyone caught cheating will have a high possibility of people expelled and that it happened to two of his students, even when cheating was their first offense.

It made me doubt what the college said about taking the rape case seriously and my safety as a female in general. How can a student who cheated get expelled, yet a student who raped someone is only suspended? That’s messed up in so many ways. It shows the priorities that my school, and I believe many schools have.

Thinking about that makes me feel sad for the girl who was raped and other girls who have been sexually assaulted. I understand that before the school suspends someone for rape, they need to confirm and make sure that the story isn’t made up because some people do lie about it. But this person has had multiple assault charges all at different schools, and I just don’t understand how he is still considered a student. It just makes me sick and feel horrible for the girl who had to go through that traumatic experience because of him.

Sorry that this post was depressing, but it’s just what the topic made me think about. Feel free to leave any comments.

Expecting Unexpectedly

Hello everyone,

Today’s topic came to my mind via Daily Prompt: Baby.

Recently, a friend of mine announced she was pregnant. She’s the first one among my group of friends to have a child. Everyone congratulated her and so did I, but in the back of my mind, I was wondering why. I know, that sounds like a horrible thing to say, but it’s honestly what I wondered.

She has such a bright future, and I know she still does. She’s a hard worker and very smart, even with an unexpected pregnancy, I know she’ll achieve her goals. But, I just felt sad for her because I know it’ll be a hindrance. Am I a horrible person for thinking that?

A lot of people I know who have kids or are pregnant, aren’t married. I know, I know, it’s 2017, who cares if they’re married are not. I’m not coming for a judgmental viewpoint, but a logical one, at least to me it is. I might be putting this in cold, logical terms, but having someone contracted to be with me forever means double financial help to raise this little person. I’m twenty-two and the people with kids I know are all around the same age, or younger. Many of them weren’t in college or stopped going after the pregnancy.

I just…I feel sad for them because they weren’t able to experience things like college, their first apartments, living alone in general, travelling, the freedom to do whatever they want for themselves. It’s like they lived dependent on their parents, still in their parents home and now all of a sudden, a little person is dependent on them.

I have no clue how they handle the financial burden. That’s what scares me the most, I can barely pay my rent, much less a child and all that comes with it. Also, they’re now kind of now stuck with someone for life…a lot of friends were dating their significant others for maybe six months and now they have a kid together. To me that’s absolutely crazy, I know it’s unexpected to them too.

I just wanted to get my thoughts out about unexpected pregnancies. I don’t think less of people who that happens to, but I think that now a chunk of fun and life is gone. I know that babies bring people happiness and love, but it’s just different…I don’t know exactly how to put my thoughts into words. If any of you have any comments, even if it’s to argue my opinions, please share. I would love to have an inkling of what goes through peoples minds when they find out they’re expecting, unexpectedly.

Thank you for reading!